If you grow up the type of woman men want to look at. You can let them look at you but do not mistake eyes for hands or windows or mirrors let them see what a woman looks like. They may not have ever seen one before.
If you grow up the type of woman men like to touch, you can let them touch you. Sometimes it’s not you they are reaching for. Sometimes it’s a bottle, a door, a sandwich, another woman, but there hands found you first. Do not mistake yourself for a guardian,or a muse, or a promise, or a victim, or a snack you are a woman skin and bones vein and nerves hair and sweat you are not made of metaphors not apologies not excuses.
If you grow up the type of woman men want to hold, you can let them hold you. All day they practice on keeping there bodies upright even after all this evolving it still feels unnatural. It still strains the muscles holds firm the arms and spine, only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you and admit they do not have the answers they thought they would by now. Some men would want to hold you like THE answer. You are not THE answer. You are not the problem, you are not the poem or the punchline or the riddle or the joke.
If you grow up the type of woman men want to love, you can let them love you but being loved is not the same as loving. When you fall in love it is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping. It is realizing that you have hands. It is reaching for that tightrope when the crowds have all gone home.
Do not spend time wondering if you are the type of woman that men will hurt. If he leaves you with a car alarm heart you may learn to sing along. It is hard to stop loving the ocean even after it has left you gasping and salty. So forgive yourself for the decisions you have made and the ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night. Know this, you are the type of woman who is searching for a place to call yours. Let the statues crumble, you have always been THE place.
You are a woman who can build it yourself.
You my dear child were born to build.
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